4 Prayers To St. Monica For Wayward Children

4 Prayers To St. Monica For Wayward Children

As a mother of nine children, I need patience. It is a daily requirement.

However, requirements do not automatically produce results. If I had a nickel for every time someone said to me “You must have a lot of patience,” I would be a rich woman. Yet rich in patience I am not.

Patience is something I pray for constantly. It’s one of the things I mention in the confessional just as often.

I have this vision in my head of what patience is supposed to look like: a mother with a soft expression, gently speaking to her child who has just done something wrong; calmly reprimanding the child who, in turn, is obediently sorrowful.

As mothers, who are in daily need of patience, we can turn to Saint Monica as our special patron

Somehow this is not how it usually plays out in my own home. I’m much quicker to anger than I am to this vision of patience.

Of course we all know that “patience is a virtue,” and yet we also know how hard it is to remain patient in this life. Oftentimes, when daily annoyances nag us, or we are faced with seemingly unanswered prayers, it is easy to lose patience.

Patron Saint of Patience (And Wayward Children)

Saint Monica, who prayed for her son’s conversion for seventeen years, certainly knew how it to have to wait—to encounter hardships, frustrations, and disappointments with a strong faith and with perseverance.

Often invoked as a patron of the virtue of patience, she never wavered in praying for the conversion of her husband and son. In the end, both of them converted and her son, Augustine, became a saint and a Doctor of the Church.

The word patience is derived from the Latin word pati, which means to suffer, to endure, to bear. This is why patience is one of the moral virtues that comes under the general virtue of Fortitude. St. Thomas Aquinas said,

Patience is one of the humble, workaday virtues; but it is, in a real sense, the root and guardian of all virtues, not causing them, but removing obstacles to their operation. Do away with patience and the gates are open for a flood of discontent and sin. 

St. Thomas Aquinas, comp. to Summa, III, 394

While we know patience is necessary, it is also a difficult virtue because it requires control over our emotions and passions.

There is a close connection between Christian patience, and awareness of and trust in the Providence of God; an awareness that there is nothing that happens in our life except that God foresees it, allows it, and can bring good out of it if we trust in His loving and all-wise concern for each of us.

Father Paul Duffner, O.P.

Saint Monica must have known this. It is worth looking at the story of her life to understand how this beautiful woman of faith relied on God’s providence to sustain her patient suffering.

The Story of Saint Monica

Saint Monica (322–387) was raised in a Christian home in Tagaste, North Africa. Early in life she struggled with alcoholism, sneaking draughts of wine from the family cellar, before being caught and subsequently giving up the habit. She was later given in marriage to a pagan Roman man named Patricius. He was not an entirely bad man, but was licentious and had a violent temper; Monica had to endure this daily as well as live with his ill-tempered mother.

She eventually became a deeply devout woman.

Monica suffered greatly, and fervently prayed for long years for the conversion of her family members. Her patience and kindness became a source of encouragement to other unhappy housewives with whom she came in contact. Monica gave birth to three children and was grieved that her husband would not allow them to be baptized.

Apparition of the Angel to Saint Monica. Painting in Saint Augustine Chapel, San Marco Church, Italy.
Angel Appears to Saint Monica by Pietro Maggi, 1714

Her eldest son, Augustine, was the most wayward of her children and caused her the most pain, and for his conversion she prayed fervently for years. Through her persistence in prayer and good example, her husband became a Christian shortly before his death.

When Augustine was caught up with heretical sects and moved away to Milan, Saint Monica followed him.

Monica became friends with the Bishop of Milan, Saint Ambrose, who eventually led Augustine to convert to the Christian faith. The holy bishop St. Ambrose comforted her, saying, “The son of these tears of yours shall not perish!”

Augustine was baptized shortly before her death, but not before they had spent peace-filled, joyous days together, discussing the mysteries of God, whom they loved so much.

Patience In Our Own Lives

I am grateful for the story of St. Monica. While I am certain I will be praying for patience and confessing my lack of it for many years to come, I can look to her and know that her years of patient longing included days of frustrations and even crying out to God for help

Just like the vision I have in my head, we often think of patience as something that only comes with a calm and serene countenance. However, as we contemplate the life of Monica, we can see that it is often accompanied by consternation. Patience means to endure hardships with trust and hope in the providence of God. It doesn’t necessarily mean that it comes without sweat and tears. As the bishop said: “The child of those tears shall never perish.”

I am grateful that I can look to Saint Monica for holy assistance and intercessory help in the constant practice of patience in my own motherhood. Let us remember that her continual and persistent prayer for her husband and for her son ultimately paid off. Ours will, too.

4 Different Prayers to Saint Monica

Saint Augustine and His Mother, Saint Monica, by Ary Scheffer
Saint Augustine and His Mother, Saint Monica, by Ary Scheffer

Prayer #1)

Dear Saint Monica, you were once the mournful mother of a prodigal son. Your faithfulness to prayer brought you and your son so close to God that you are now with him in eternity. By your intercession and God’s grace, your son St. Augustine became a great and venerable Saint of the Church. Please take my request to God with the same fervor and persistence with which you prayed for your own son.

(Mention your intentions here)

With your needs, worries and anxieties, you threw yourself on the mercy and providence of God. Through sorrow and pain, you constantly devoted yourself to God. Pray for me that I might join you in such a deep faith in God’s goodness and mercy.

Above all, dear Saint Monica, pray for me that I may, like your son, turn from my sin and become a great saint for the glory of God. Amen.

Prayer #2)

Exemplary Mother of the Great Augustine,
you perseveringly pursued your wayward son,
not with wild threats but with prayerful cries to heaven.
Intercede for all mothers in our day
so that they may learn to draw their children to God.
Teach them how to remain close to their children,
even the prodigal sons and daughters
who have sadly gone astray.

Prayer #3)

Dear St. Monica, troubled wife and mother,
Many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica, for (mention your petition here)
and grant me the grace to accept his will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God forever and ever.

Prayer #4)

Blessed Monica, mother of St. Augustine,
we give thanks to our Father in Heaven
Who looked with mercy upon your tears
over your wayward son.
His conversion and heroic sanctification
were the fruit of your prayers.
Dear St. Monica,
we now ask you to pray with us
for all those sons and daughters
that have wandered away from God,
and to add your prayers to those of all mothers
who are worried over their children.
Pray also for us that,
following your example, we may,
in the company of our children,
one day enjoy the eternal vision of our Father in Heaven.

What stands out to you about the story of St. Monica and St. Augustine?

Is there another saint that you turn to for children who have left the Faith?

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